☯ From a Center of Serenity

 

We need to start with a sense of peace of well being.  So how can we help those who come behind us be able to reach that before they approach the horse.

To wait is to base a relationship on fear on uncertainty and if that is where we start what does that mean to the relationship that follows.

It is a conundrum.  We need to have a sense of confidence for the horse to feel confident.  We need to have a sense of calmness, of content, of peace before we ever come before the horse, but it is through knowledge, experience and familiarity that we learn to feel the confidence, calmness to be among these large and powerful animals.  It is the unknown that we fear, the unknown that causes us to be cautious - to hesitate.  A natural inclination that we somehow need to be able to control not just on the surface that other humans can see, but deep into the core of our being, so it is integrated so deeply that this is all the horse can sense.  They don't see or sense our facial expressions, it is incredibly difficult for us to hide our hesitancies, our fears from horses.  They are incredible in their ability to read our emotions.  To sense what and how we feel.  Their ability to read intent is perhaps easily the most powerful of any other species that we work closely with.

I am struck by this concept - the concept that we will gain confidence, poise, inner peace when we work with horses, when we have had time.  That which is familiar, brining us to a point in confidence.  But the inherent flaws in that concept are clear.  One that when we work with horses sooner or later our fears will be realized.  We will be hurt.  Some horse is going to rip the lead rope out of our hands, some horse is going to spook and we quite likely are going to fly into the air only to land with a thud with that incredibly painful hurting feeling of no air in our lungs and no ability to draw in any breath, when the breath literally gets knocked out of us.  It is going to happen.  Sooner or later.  And it doesn't matter.  We still need to approach every day, every event as if we are insular, as if it isn't going to happen, content and almost placid in our regard to the eventuality.

It is like the concept of death.